Losing control, eroticism, and trust. Do you have a better recipe for a great BDSM session? There are many factors that contribute to the success of sessions with the individual we’ve interviewed today, but the connection on multiple levels, the enjoyment of scenarios involving the relinquishment of complete control, and, of course, the trust that has been forged over time are key. I’m sharing their responses to some of the questions that I believe provide essential information for those who have doubts about whether to engage in a session. Let’s dive in!
Are you experienced? Please briefly describe your experiences.
I’m not sure if I can consider myself an experienced person. At this moment, what I can say is that I am not a novice, as I have had six sessions. Each session has been different, both in duration and content, although there are similarities in several of them.
The initial ones I could consider as introductory, in the sense of trying out different practices. In the last three, I believe we have delved deeper (Chaos and I), gradually. This is a mutual learning experience. On my part, it’s about getting to know and expanding my own limits, and for Mistress Chaos, it’s about understanding my sensations as I experiment with me, in a process that I currently find very satisfying and enriching for me.
Do you still get nervous before meetings?
I can say it clearly: Yes, I still get nervous before every meeting. It’s something that doesn’t disappear, and I consider it a good thing that it doesn’t. But the level of nervousness has been progressive. I remember before my first session, I was as nervous as can be, both due to doubts and unfamiliarity.
Handing over your body, your sensations, your pleasure to another person is always complicated. The wonderful thing is that this person knows how to convey the necessary calm for you to trust them. Thanks to that, both through words and actions, that tension and those nerves have diminished.
The nerves that could initially be seen as a bit of fear, in my case, have certainly turned into absolute trust, and that tension only arises from the curiosity or anticipation of what will happen in the next 2 or 3 hours.
What kind of sessions have you had?
All my sessions are born from the recreation of a very general fantasy that I could define as “not being in control of a situation.” From there, we have developed various scenarios, sometimes with a specific theme, in which both of us act according to a script, and others that are more immersive and intense, focused on the deepening of certain practices.
When do you enjoy a session the most?
In my case, I admit that I enjoy every session from the moment it begins until it ends because my fundamental fantasy is always fulfilled.
Beyond that, it’s very difficult to specify specific moments. We all know that there are practices that bring more pleasure than others. What’s wonderful is how they can be alternated with others that, by definition, would be considered more painful.
Within that mutual learning that I mentioned earlier is where that wonderful result of enjoying in a holistic way occurs, at least for me. Thanks to both the prior knowledge born from the experience of other sessions and the previous research work that Mistress Chaos does in trying to get to know you as best as possible, the experience is always, at a minimum, satisfactory.
In relation to sessions, what question would you like to be asked?
In an ideal world, without prejudices, without taboos, the question I would like to be asked is: Is it worth it?
My answer would be “Yes. Without a doubt”. Letting yourself go, exploring and knowing your body, your limits, is something that everyone should do.
Apart from the bond created. It’s not about sex, it’s about trust.